Celebrating my Mother or other mothers is not the issue I have with Mother's day. It's the awkward feeling that I have being a women who is single and without children on a day where we celebrate the 75% of women in the U.S of childbearing age who have produced a child. So I began dreading the sacred Mother's day on Saturday night. My church always has a big celebration of all the Mother's in the church and I knew it was coming. I debated even attending for this reason. However, a good friend of mine, knowing how much I love church on Sundays convinced me otherwise. On Sunday morning I woke up to get dress somewhat grudgingly and avoided checking my Facebook account at all costs.
The thing about Mother's day is that people do not exactly know what to do with or say to single childless women in celebration of that day. You greet someone at church or on the street, and participate in this awkward "dance hug," then there is the quiet pause where they don't exactly know what to say to you, knowing that you have not bore any children. So they end up saying things that make the situation even more awkward such as: " Happy Mother's Day to you...you know, as a potential mother," or "Happy Mother's Day to you...you have parented some child somewhere before," or my personal favorite, "Happy Mother's Day...one day it will happen for you," As if to say once it happens for me, my life will be perfect. This may be true for some of us, and don't get me wrong, I would love children one day, but I have this great blank canvas of life staring at me and so many experiences to fill it with in the meantime, that I don't mind waiting a bit.
Also, I did end up going to church, and yes there was a big celebration and all the women in the church (including the childless ones) were asked to stand up and be appreciated. Yes, I stood and I accepted the appreciation without any hesitation. I still got the awkward hugs and thank you's throughout the day and thoroughly disliked the unnecessary statements, but I thanked every one of those who gave them to me, because it is the thought that counts. Everyone likes to be celebrated sometimes, even if the cause for celebration is not necessarily you.
So on behalf of all the currently childless women out there (or just me), hey, we appreciate the thought, but you can spare us the awkward moments on Mother's day and simply say "Hello, hope you have a great day." No explanations needed.